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Short, practical reads built on the Wilder Method — one for each pattern your readouts are most likely to surface. $9.99 each.

Start with the framework

The core of the Wilder Method. Read these if you want to understand what the assessment is actually measuring.

Mini Book

$9.99

The 6 Sides Discovery Guide

A deep-dive companion to the framework

The deeper look behind the assessment: what the 6 Sides actually are, where the framework comes from, and the research it stands on. Six parts, plain language, no psychology background needed.

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Most personality tools hand you a label and stop. This guide does the opposite: it walks you through each of the 6 sides — Adventurer, Life Enthusiast, Conscientious One, Connector, Leader, Mediator — and shows what each one looks like when it is strong, when it is starved, and when it is carrying the whole load for the others.

What's inside

All 6 sides defined, with everyday examples of each in balance and out of balance
Where the framework comes from and the research lineage behind it
How to read your own high and low sides without turning them into a verdict
The one principle that decides which side to strengthen first

Best for: Anyone who just took the assessment and wants the full picture behind their readout.
Format: Mini book · six parts · plain language

Mini Book

$9.99

The Six Instincts — A Primer

The ID and how it drives your life

The six capacities of Instinctual Drive, why the ID has to be sequenced first, and how shame shuts it down. From Freud to Panksepp, then straight into the six instincts themselves.

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Instinctual Drive is the engine underneath the 6 Sides. This primer explains why the Wilder Method sequences the ID first — before insight, before strategy — and what happens to a life when that engine has been quieted by shame for years.

What's inside

The six instincts, one at a time, with the positive and shadow expression of each
Why ID-first sequencing changes the order of the work
How shame shuts an instinct down, and what reactivation actually feels like
The lineage in brief: Freud's drive theory through Panksepp's affective neuroscience

Best for: Readers whose Instinctual Drive readout came back low or uneven.
Format: Mini book · six instinct chapters

Mini Book

$9.99

The Archetype Field Manual

Find the archetype that moves you past fear

A field manual for the part of you that knows how to act before you feel ready. Theory, archetypes, and practice for all 6 sides — Adventurer through Connector.

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An archetype is a borrowed posture — a way of standing in a moment your ordinary self would avoid. This manual gives you one for each of the 6 sides, then shows you how to step into it on purpose when fear has the wheel.

What's inside

An archetype for each of the 6 sides, with the fear it is built to move through
How to choose your working archetype from your readout
Rehearsal drills: small reps that build the posture before you need it
What to do when the archetype overcorrects and becomes a mask

Best for: People who understand their pattern and still freeze at the moment of action.
Format: Field manual · six archetype sections

Deep dives

One pattern per book. Each takes a familiar struggle and re-reads it through the 6 Sides of You.

Mini Book

$9.99

The Shape of Codependency

Over-giving, over-caring, over-functioning

An educational field guide to the inner landscape of codependency — ten signs reframed, the five territories where it lives, and why the way out starts in the one place no one thinks to look.

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Codependency is usually described as a relationship problem. This guide treats it as an inner arrangement: a self that has learned to earn safety by managing everyone else. Once you can see the shape of it, the exits stop being mysterious.

What's inside

Ten familiar signs, reframed as adaptations instead of flaws
The five territories where over-functioning lives — home, work, family, friendship, self
Why the way out starts with your own instincts, not with a boundary script
Early signals that you are sliding back into the pattern

Best for: Chronic over-givers, fixers, and the reliable one in every room.
Format: Mini book · five territories · ten signs

Mini Book

$9.99

Anxiety Has a Hidden Cause

A Wilder Method deep dive

Why anxiety grows in a particular kind of inner imbalance, what that looks like in everyday life, and what current neuroscience suggests about the Wilder Method's picture of it. For thoughtful, self-aware, still-stuck people.

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You have probably already been told why you are anxious — chemistry, childhood, thinking habits, stress. Each explanation is a piece. This deep dive names the imbalance underneath them: a system where the shoulds run ahead of the instincts, and the body keeps sounding an alarm nobody answers.

What's inside

The specific inner imbalance that reliably produces anxiety
What that imbalance looks like on an ordinary Tuesday
What current research suggests about why the framework's picture holds up
A first move that lowers the alarm without arguing with the thoughts

Best for: Thoughtful, self-aware people who have done the reading and are still stuck.
Format: Deep dive · foreword + five parts

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Mini Book

$9.99

Anger — The Body's Oldest Language

The ten signatures of anger

Anger as a compass instead of a problem. Panksepp's ancient systems, the nervous-system story, and the ten signatures — fear-based, frustration-based, hurt-based, moral, and suppressed — mapped onto the 6 Sides of You.

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Anger is the emotion almost nobody was taught to read. This guide treats it as information: each of the ten signatures points to a different unmet condition, and once you can tell them apart, anger stops being a thing to manage and becomes a thing to follow.

What's inside

Anger as a compass, and why it gets so consistently misread
The science underneath: Panksepp's seven systems, Porges and Levine on the nervous system
The ten signatures — fear-based, frustration-based, hurt-based, moral, and suppressed
Moving from signal to growth: what each signature asks you to strengthen

Best for: People who either erupt or go quiet, and want to know what the anger is pointing at.
Format: Deep dive · five parts · ten signatures

Mini Book

$9.99

ADHD Through the Wilder Lens

A reframe of attention

A deep look at how the eight patterns of ADHD live inside the 6 Sides of You — and what that changes about the way we work with them.

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This is not a claim that ADHD is not real. It is a re-reading: the eight patterns clinicians describe look different when you place them inside the 6 sides, and that placement changes which supports actually help.

What's inside

The eight patterns of ADHD, described plainly
Where each pattern sits inside the 6 Sides of You
Why some standard strategies backfire for particular side mixes
What to strengthen first when attention is the presenting problem

Best for: Adults with an ADHD diagnosis or suspicion, plus the people who work with them.
Format: Companion document · eight patterns

Mini Book

$9.99

Career Paths & the 6 Sides of You

Career edition

A clear-eyed guide to the work that fits who you actually are. Read your own side mix and match it to the roles, environments, and rhythms where you tend to thrive.

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Career advice usually starts with interests. This guide starts with structure: which sides of you are strong, which are starved, and what that predicts about the environments where you last and the ones that quietly drain you.

What's inside

Work profiles for each of the 6 sides — conditions, rhythms, and friction points
How to read a mixed profile instead of forcing yourself into one type
Signals that a role is fighting your structure rather than your skills
Questions to ask in an interview about the environment, not the job

Best for: Anyone choosing, changing, or quietly enduring a career.
Format: Deep dive · career edition

Workbooks & programs

Practice, not theory. Structured weeks of reps for you — or a run of show for your clients.

Workbook

$9.99

The Instinct Activation Workbook

A six-to-eight week program, two cycles

Self-paced and witness-supported. Two full cycles of exercises that take your readouts and turn them into weekly practice, with space to write your way through it.

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The workbook is where the readouts stop being interesting and start being work. Two full cycles, six to eight weeks each, with weekly reps sized so that they are uncomfortable but doable — and space on the page to track what actually happened.

What's inside

Two complete cycles of weekly exercises, self-paced or witness-supported
Reps scaled to your lowest instinct rather than a generic curriculum
Written reflection space for each week, plus end-of-cycle review
A retest checkpoint so you can measure movement instead of guessing

Best for: Readers ready to practice, ideally with one trusted witness.
Format: Workbook · 2 cycles · 6–8 weeks each

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Toolkit

$9.99

The Hero's Journey Facilitator Guide

The complete four-phase program

For clinicians: eight to ten sessions across home base, the map, the caves, and the view. Run of show, ready-to-run activities, calibration for hard cases, and a parent lane throughout.

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A facilitator's kit for running the Wilder Method as a group or individual program. Four phases, eight to ten sessions, with the session-by-session run of show already written so you can spend your prep time on the people in the room.

What's inside

Four phases — home base, the map, the caves, the view — with session objectives
Ready-to-run activities and prompts for each session
Calibration notes for hard cases and resistant participants
A parallel parent lane for adolescent groups

Best for: Clinicians, coaches, and group facilitators.
Format: Facilitator guide · 8–10 sessions

AI companions

Prompt packs that turn ChatGPT or Claude into a coach tuned to your archetype, so you have a witness between sessions.

Toolkit

$9.99

The AI Archetype Companion

For the Instinct Activation Workbook

A directive coaching companion you build inside ChatGPT or Claude. Paste the prompt, get a coach tuned to your archetype, and run your reps between sessions.

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A prompt pack, not an app. You paste it into ChatGPT or Claude and get a directive coach that already knows the framework, your archetype, and the difference between reassuring you and moving you.

What's inside

The full base prompt, plus archetype-specific variants
Session starters for daily check-ins and weekly reviews
Guardrails that keep the coach directive instead of flattering
How to pair it with the Instinct Activation Workbook cycles

Best for: Workbook readers who want accountability between sessions.
Format: Prompt pack · first edition

Toolkit

$9.99

The AI Coach Companion

For the Codependency Workbook

The same build-your-own-coach approach, tuned to over-giving and over-functioning. A prompt that turns any AI chat into a steady witness for the codependency work.

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Codependency work needs a witness who does not need anything from you. This prompt pack builds one: a coach tuned to over-giving that names the pattern in real time and hands the choice back to you.

What's inside

The full base prompt tuned to over-functioning and over-caring
Real-time scripts for the moments you want to rescue someone
Prompts for boundary rehearsal and after-the-fact review
Guardrails so the coach never becomes another person to please

Best for: Readers of The Shape of Codependency doing the daily work.
Format: Prompt pack · first edition

Not sure where to start?

Take the assessment first. Your two readouts point to the pattern costing you the most, and every book here maps to one of those patterns. Your purchase also includes a retest so you can measure the change.

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